One Shot!

Just a few days ago, I overheard two women talking in a restaurant about their children. It really annoyed me to a great extent what I happened to hear. So, one of them said, “I strictly told him (her son), you will not take Arts, you will either have to take Science or Commerce. No Arts. There is no set future in that field. Study hard for your 10th grade and get into some good college and then you will do Law. And that’s final!”

Isn’t this sad? Firstly, a child cannot pick his/her own career option. Secondly, parents don’t discussion and come up with better options as per the child’s interest, oh I forgot, who cares about the child’s interest? Blah. Thirdly, why not Arts?

I must say that I am lucky in this case. My parents never forced me to do anything, be it studies or otherwise. After my 10th grade, I got admission for Commerce and I had planned that I would do CA, but I changed my mind almost in a month and I told my parents that I want to take up Arts, not that I had got bad grades, because that is the common notion everyone has here in India, that if a student fails to get good marks, they have an option of taking up Arts. My parents just discussed with me with regard to what I have in mind and why Arts. And that was it. I remember, the very next day we visited various colleges to check if they still had any seats left. And that’s how I landed up being an Arts with IT student. I was proud of myself when I ranked Third in my college. Could Commerce give me that? Sure. But could it also give me the same happiness? Maybe not. Even after that, doing BMM was my choice. No one forced me into it. And I am glad for it.

Point being, when parents force their kids into the career choices of their interests, they are not doing any favour to their kids by ‘setting’ up their careers. No, they are intact ruining it. Fine, your kid will get a good job, earn good money, but what after that? Will your kid go to bed being satisfied? No. They will regret each and every day. The thought of ‘I wish I had had the guts to follow my heart, I would have now become a world famous actor/musician/cricketer/writer/any other thing but this stupid desk job which only gives me money but no happiness.’

Let your kids fly, don’t cut their wings even before they take the flight. Let them be. Yes, they do need you, but as a strong support system. They need your guidance, but not enforcement. Be there for them, don’t decide for them.

And students or people in general, don’t run behind a secure job. Take the risk, if not now then when? Everything is on the other side of the fence. Jump across the fence, take the risk, take the leap of faith and see the magic unfold itself. Before settling for a secure and safe job, just once, once for yourself, for your own sake, try and give your 100% to the thing that you want to do. You can always rely on the backup option (safe job), that is only if you are not able to achieve your thing. If everyone becomes a Doctor or an Engineer, then who would entertain or play for the Nation? Be what you want to be, do what you want to do.

One sincere shot is all that it takes to completely change your life.

XOXO

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YogaDiaries – Week 12

All I can think about is Yoga, all the time! It isn’t weird, is it? I am in absolutely LOVE with it. It gives me immense happiness when I am able to perform an Asana correctly. There is this some kind of a joy when I am in class, even waking up at 5:30 AM doesn’t feel horrible (I don’t like mornings, I am a night person). I like learning more and more about Yoga.

This week they announced the date and exam pattern of our Certificate Exam, that is also the 1st Semester. I am kind of nervous about it because I still have 5-6 assignments pending and my job is still not over for me to concentrate fully on my studies. Also, there is some renovation work going on at my place, so amidst all those noises, it kind of gets tricky to study. But, where there is a will, there is a way. I aim to stand first in my class. I will definitely study hard for this, and I’ll also keep listening to the Shlokas to by heart them. Since these Shlokas are in Sanskrit, it’ll take some efforts. Also, now everything connects to me, a quick recap: I had the French language as a subject in school, and for my Junior College we had Sanskrit as a compulsory subject. At first, I was worried on how I would study Sanskrit, having no background of the same, I still sailed through it. Now I know, if I wouldn’t have had Sanskrit at that time, I wouldn’t have been able to understand the Shlokas now. It all happens for a reason.

I am ready to take as many efforts as possible for this because it is worth it. I can and I will do it!

|| Hari Om ||


Change is the only Constant!

Change is the only constant. Okay. We can do nothing but embrace the change. Sure.

I don’t want this major change to happen. It’s been a year now since we graduated from college and already things are changing at a rapid pace. We weren’t meant to grow up so soon. No! Students should be allowed to have a year off after graduation to discover themselves, go on trips, explore, see the world, anything and everything that they want to do. Anything but falling into the trap of job and career.

I agree that career is important, but not as important as your life. Anyway, coming to the point, things are changing dramatically on the ‘friends’ front. I lost my best friend over a misunderstanding and a third person, one of my friends is getting engaged and will soon move to another state, another one is going out of town to pursue further studies, one of them is leaving everything behind and going on a month long adventure trip, another one is getting into the grove of her new job, one is working hard to be a great journalist, one is soon going to be a big name in the sports fraternity and one in the TV industry. In short, everyone is leaving to make their new paths. We won’t meet that often now, we won’t have crazy sleepovers now, everything is changing, and I am not ready for it.

Everyone is doing some or the other thing, and here I am, doing just a regular job, not following my passion and dreams. I wish I could just rewind and go back to the first day of college and re-live it. Oh please take me back to the start!

If any one of you who is reading this is still in college or school, please follow my advice and live it to the core, you won’t get these days back. Don’t crib about homework or exams, they are just a part of your journey. Make memories, make each day count. Make mistakes, learn from them. Cherish the friends that you make on your way, hold them close. You will miss these days when are over, make it worth your while.

Mean while, I will just accept this change.


Old is Gold!

Sure our lives move on once we are done with college and school, but one thing that I have learnt is that never ever, I repeat, never ever lose touch with your old friends. They are the people who know you really well. Let me tell you my story, it was as if I had lost complete touch with my school friends off lately, as I thought they don’t really care if I am with them for dinners or chilling out or anything. I tried being away from them, of course there were other reasons too, but point being, we had sort of lost touch. And trust me, I did miss them, I missed being around them. It was only recently that we all decided to meet up again as a friend of ours was coming back from London, so I thought that he is coming back all the way from there, the least I can do is walk down the street to meet them. I did. I had this misconception that they barely know me, since I don’t talk much. But it was at that moment when someone said something about me from the school days, and it forced me to think and recollect the memory that they had just mentioned.

I mean, they remember and know so much about me that I was overwhelmed. I had never expected that to happen. They have been a part of the growing up years, they have seen me happy, sad, angry, scared, irritated, everything. They have seen the ups and downs, they have seen me struggle, and they have seen me move one. I am happy to have them in my life. I don’t meet them often or we don’t text day in and day out. But I am glad to have them, each one of them. Because I know, they’ll be there for me when I need them. They will be there.

So, never ever let go off your friends for anything or anyone.

PS: Here’s a picture from the night I don’t remember much about! (you know why)

  


If only I could get’em back…

Today while I was taking my sister to the doctor’s clinic in the arcade opposite to my school, I noticed something different about the whole place. This arcade was like my second home, some few years back, say 5 years. After loitering around the arcade after school, even in the evenings we used to go there to hang out. That was like the coolest hangout spot for all of us back then. All the faces that I used to see were all familiar to me, I knew most of them, majority school crowd with other grown-ups who used to come there to unwind or buy some errands. But the point being, no matter at what time I used to go there, I knew most of the faces.

Today, when I went to the arcade, after quite a long time, I knew nobody. All the faces were new to me. I felt like an outsider at my own place. But the kids who were around knew the fellow kids. Times change, school batches change and with that changes the young crowd at the arcade. We just have memories of the place now. Because just 5 years back people used to connect by talking and interacting and not by clicking selfies for snapchat or instagram. Yeah, I didn’t have a great phone back then. God, I sound so old and ancient already! But the good thing was that the fruit stall from where I used to drink coconut water every single day after school, was still the same, and that uncle still recognized me. *happy tears*

How times just changed! Initially, boys from school used to flaunt their cycles while coming to school. Then everything just evolved. From cycles to Activa’s to bikes to shiny new cars, I don’t know what’s next, I always used to walk. Every other guy in town gets a car right after he gets out of the school, his father’s used car obviously. But the day they turn 18, they get their own toys as a birthday gift. Innocence and carefree playful days somehow got lost between this evolution. Whenever I go downstairs to the garden in my society for a walk or something, these kids actually pull out their mobile phones and huddle up in groups to listen to Eminem raps. While they do that, I am shouting at the top of my voice in my head, “You are supposed to play and run and get your knees scraped at this age! Throw away that phone!” I had actually interrupted their session once and had asked them to beat me in a running race. But they just gave me one look and got back to their stupid phones. This is so sad!

I miss the old school days!


Exams!

Its that time of the year, when most of the students have their exams. Their heads are bowed down and buried in books. Even my cousins have their board exams, which commence from today. I am in a public bus right now and I just saw a car coming and halting beside the bus at the signal. The boy sitting at the back seat was still referring to his notes, just an hour before the exam. Am sure they were on their way to the examination centre.

Seeing that boy, I remembered my grade 10th, when I had my first boards. The jitters that I was feeling. Every other person around me advising on how and how not to write the board paper, how to keep calm, how not to be affected by others, and how to tackle with people who can bother you while you are writing. The things to carry, drinking sufficient water, keeping everything in order. Those were the days! The pressure of the boards are too much. But slashing off a subject name after coming home after giving the exam, that happiness is beyond expressing. That relief. The icing on the cake is when your hard work pays off, when you score good marks. Good marks that get tears in your mothers eyes. Good marks that makes everyone proud of you. And after that you start your journey with junior college, sort of entering into the real world.

All the best to all the students having their exams round the corner.