We generally hold on to grudges and hate, but if you think about it, what’s the whole point? This way you are just keeping that hate or negative vibe in you. You can’t fill a glass unless you empty it, right? Similarly, if you don’t let go of the hate, grudges and negative vibes, how will you fill yourself with love and positivity?
I am the kind of person who will forgive someone, no matter what, sure I take my own sweet time to get over it, but eventually I will forgive the person, even if they might have screwed me over big time. The question is: Is only forgiving enough? No, because even if you forgive, it still occupies that place in you. Preaching about this is very easy, practicing it is difficult, but we need to understand that it is for our own good and not for the person that we are forgiving. Forgive someone to let yourself free, free from the space that the damage done by someone else was occupying in your heart. To take it one more step ahead and to completely eradicate it out of our systems, we need to forget about it as well.
Sure, that the other person hurt you, so much so that you never thought you could recover out of it, that the scar won’t fade away. Come to think of it, the scar is on you, not the other person. It is you who needs to decide whether you want to wear that scar or smoothen it out. Forgive someone not to free them, but yourself. Free yourself from the pain, scar, and space. Forgive the other person, the damage has already been done, nothing can undo it now. What can be done is, forgive and forget to completely throw it out of your system and move on!
Think of yourself as a mobile phone with a small bug, just one bug is enough to slow down the entire phone. To make it run smoothly again, you need to format your phone to get rid of that one unknown bug and voila, your phone is smooth again. Similarly, format the person out of your life, in a systematic way so that it doesn’t bother you again.
Forgive – Forget – Move on